While I was looking in the shops over the Christmas, I found a book called “No More Clutter” by Sue Kay.  I had heard the author interviewed on the radio, and was interested in her views on decluttering.  I like the fact that she is a psychologist, so she understands the reasons behind why we clutter.  That helps me more than someone just setting out a bunch of rules I have to follow to clear out my stuff.  I have started reading it, and I have started decluttering.  They go hand in hand.  At the moment it has a real feelgood feel to it, and that has to be a good thing.

 

I suppose it wouldn’t have appealed to me as a book to read if I wasn’t in that place mentally, where I want to clear out old “stuff”.  I mean mental stuff as well as the daily clutter of my home and life!  Readers who are interested in the life-coaching elements of this blog can probably relate to this too.  Possibly mental clutter is the reason behind the physical clutter, but - unlike Sue - I am not a psychologist, so I don’t know for sure.

 

One of the most useful exercises in the book is the “Smile Test”.  I hope she will forgive me for reproducing, verbatim, her piece on the Smile Test:

 

 

 

 

 

Sue Kay makes a very good point.  When we’re kids, “things” have no emotional hold on us whatsoever.  If we like something (whether it makes sense or not) we hang onto it for dear life.  If we don’t like it, we quickly lose it, or forget to bring it home, or give it away.  We don’t agonize over it.  We don’t say “I’d better keep it because auntie so-and-so gave it to me and she’d be really upset if she knew I gave it away”.  Our decision making was simple.

 

I’m not suggesting you broadcast to auntie so-and-so if you’re giving the lamp she gave you for Christmas to the charity shop at the very beginning of January.  But you are entitled to make your own decisions about your own life and your own possessions.  That’s what I’m trying to do, starting this month.  I also accept that, for it to work, it has to be ongoing and not just for the holidays.  Watch this space …

 

It is like a rich seam of gold that can be ignored and left undetected for years, hidden out of sight.  At any time, we can decide to uncover that treasure in all its glory and use it for our own good and that of our neighbours and the world.

 

I’m looking at what new levels of “treasure-hunting” I can get up to this year.  I am freshly accredited with NLP Life Coaching skills from the Irish Institute of NLP, building on my existing six years of coaching and NLP qualifications.  I have my website and blog up and running, newsletters going out regularly (sign up if you want to be included), have completed my first four Toastmasters speeches, got the job of Sgt-at-arms in my local Toastmasters club, have exhibited my art in various local venues with the Portmarnock Art Group, have finished my coaching with the Jack Canfield coaching organisation and have been co-founder of a Skype mastermind group (with members in Spain, Germany, Ireland, and others joining from Switzerland this year, we hope) arising from the Canfield coaching programme.

 

This all sounds like blowing my own trumpet and - y’know what? - it is!  Try it!  It’s good for the soul!  It took me most of my year with Canfield to learn to acknowledge my achievements, allow myself to take credit for my hard work and just rewards and to learn to plan for more successes in my future.

 

So I’m recommending that you start your year with a nice long list of all your achievements/successes in 2009.  What a great way to head into a new year.  And let me remind you that often the things that you take for granted are really successes.  For instance, what if you stay at home to care for an elderly or sick relative?  You might think - well, I don’t go out to work, so I’m not really achieving anything.  Wrong!!  You can write down as achievements: caring, nurturing, sharing, nursing, showing love, supporting, helping, organising.  You can write down as skills you have: patience, caring, love, willingness to help, interest in others, using your strength to ease others weakness, compassion and understanding.

 

Start now.  Write down lists and lists of achievements, successes.  Don’t try to categorise them or rate them.  They are all valid.  In my personal life I often find that at the end of a day, my greatest success might have been to show understanding and a listening ear to my teenage son, when I might really feel like screaming at him instead!  Any of you with kids will know that this is a REAL achievement!!

 

I’d love to hear how you get on with this.  You are my readers, my clients, my supporters.  Without you there would be no reason for me to write this.  It’s a two way street.  If you have something to say, tell me.

 

For now I leave you with my best wishes again, for your health, happiness and the uncovering of great “seams” of joy in your life for 2010.

 

Daria