We all want the best for ourselves in our lives. We want the best job, the best salary, the best partner, the best kids, in short - the best life. That’s great. We are built to go after what we want in our lives. We don’t always know, or acknowledge that we know, how to do that.
I think I’ve mentioned before that I am engaged in an ongoing coaching relationship with the Canfield Coachingteam in the U.S. It is constantly providing me with thought-provoking and challenging issues. Change and growth are all part of the process. Sometimes I feel like I’m going round in circles. At others I feel like I’m stuck in the one spot, going nowhere at all. I even feel, sometimes, that everything is changing too quickly and I can’t cope. Here is a brief list of helpful tips I got from one of Jack Canfield’s motivational CDs.
What do we need to do?
- Stop doing what’s not working. So you’ve tried lots of things. Some of them were deliberately tried, some of them out of desperation, or as a last resort, but - if you’re still here - then you’ve been trying lots of things to get to the stage of still being here. If you hadn’t tried crossing the street against the red light you would not now know how dangerous that can be! But you’ve survived - so you learned something by that. Every little thing we do in our lives is based on tiny, instant decisions we make, which are - in turn - based on previous responses we have gotten to things we tried.
- Do more of what is working. When you find something you do that really works for you, that gives you the response/feedback/result you desire, then incorporate more of that into your life. Apply it to other areas of your life/work and see how that succeeds for you.
- Try new things and see what does work. The only way to increase the number of ways you can succeed and make changes is to continue to add new skills/tools to your repertoire. It’s risky, I know. And risky can mean scary. But think of the payoff. You get to identify lots of new powerful techniques to improve/change you life. So try new things. Take each one for a test drive. If it works add it to your list of what works, and if it doesn’t then add it to the list of things to stop doing!
Overall you’ll have added greatly to your knowledge and experience, right now, in the present. You’ll also have identified new skills to use to create a better future for yourself.