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A De-cluttering New Year

Tuesday, January 12th, 2010
De-Clutter your New Year

De-Clutter your New Year

While I was looking in the shops over the Christmas, I found a book called “No More Clutter” by Sue Kay.  I had heard the author interviewed on the radio, and was interested in her views on decluttering.  I like the fact that she is a psychologist, so she understands the reasons behind why we clutter.  That helps me more than someone just setting out a bunch of rules I have to follow to clear out my stuff.  I have started reading it, and I have started decluttering.  They go hand in hand.  At the moment it has a real feelgood feel to it, and that has to be a good thing.
 
I suppose it wouldn’t have appealed to me as a book to read if I wasn’t in that place mentally, where I want to clear out old “stuff”.  I mean mental stuff as well as the daily clutter of my home and life!  Readers who are interested in the life-coaching elements of this blog can probably relate to this too.  Possibly mental clutter is the reason behind the physical clutter, but - unlike Sue - I am not a psychologist, so I don’t know for sure.
 
One of the most useful exercises in the book is the “Smile Test”.  I hope she will forgive me for reproducing, verbatim, her piece on the Smile Test:
 
“Your pink shoes pass the Smile Test - you just have to smile because you feel so good in them!  A photo of you drinking champagne on your 30th birthday reminds you of a great evening friends.  The Smile Test tells you when something is real treasure.  Even practical things like wine glasses and mugs should be a pleasure to use and pass the Smile Test.
 
Stay tuned in to your reactions for warning signs that you feel unhappy or negative about an item.  People often start sighing when they hold up something they feel ambivalent about.  Or they give long, complicated explanations of why they should keep something, even though they never use it and do not like it.
 
Paula was keeping old love letters in her wardrobe from a man who had brought a lot of misery into her life.  She could not bear even to handle them, let alone re-read them.  So she asked me to shred them.  Letting go meant she was literally no longer giving him space in her home or her heart.
 
You deserve to surround yourself with beloved possessions and warm associations from your past.  Junk bad memories like rejection letters from interviews and you will let go of a lot of negativity in your life.”
 
Sue Kay makes a very good point.  When we’re kids, “things” have no emotional hold on us whatsoever.  If we like something (whether it makes sense or not) we hang onto it for dear life.  If we don’t like it, we quickly lose it, or forget to bring it home, or give it away.  We don’t agonize over it.  We don’t say “I’d better keep it because auntie so-and-so gave it to me and she’d be really upset if she knew I gave it away”.  Our decision making was simple.
 
I’m not suggesting you broadcast to auntie so-and-so if you’re giving the lamp she gave you for Christmas to the charity shop at the very beginning of January.  But you are entitled to make your own decisions about your own life and your own possessions.  That’s what I’m trying to do, starting this month.  I also accept that, for it to work, it has to be ongoing and not just for the holidays.  Watch this space …
 

Step by Step to help yourself

Wednesday, November 18th, 2009
Going the Extra Mile

Going the Extra Mile

I came across this video clip recently on YouTube, and I love it.  I don’t know who made it or promotes it, but - as always here at LifePotential - I’m happy to pass on anything I feel will help us develop ourselves to the fullest.  Our behaviour is often influenced by little things we see or hear.  See what you think of this.
 
This is really about going the extra mile, doing that bit more, providing that extra special service.  I read an article in the Irish Times last week about a woman who is opening an old fashioned Tea Shop in Co. Cork.  Her research included a trip to afternoon tea at the Ritz in London.  She said it cost her £42 per person, but that it was worth every penny of it.  Now - do the Ritz serve better tea than anywhere else?  I doubt it.  Do they make better cakes/scones than a home-baker from Cork?  Most unlikely.  So why did she feel it was worth it?
 
She said that the welcome, the service (they had a waiter dedicated to their table), the crisp white linen cloths & napkins, the smiles, the “nothing-is-too-much-trouble” attitude made it worthwhile.  She decided that that atmosphere was what she wanted to replicate in her tea shop.  She bought proper china cups (from charity shops) rather than mugs.  Her daughter decorates each cupcake individually by hand.  She makes the tea in old fashioned china pots with knitted tea-cosy, on to keep it warm.  All in all, she is bringing the care and attention to detail of her Ritz experience, to her own tea shop.
 
I found it a warming read, just to see someone going that extra mile to provide a luxury service to her customers.  And she’s not getting 42 pounds a go for it.  But I hope that she is getting loyal and happy customers.  People know what they like: - they like to be welcomed, treated well, fed good food in good company and to leave with a smile on their face.
 
There are always areas in our daily lives where we have the chance to do a little bit extra for someone, to give a little more, to try a little harder, to be more pleasant in an exchange (smiling costs nothing as we’ve proven before!), to be more welcoming, to offer to help, to spend 5 minutes with someone who needs company.  There are as many opportunities as there are moments in the day.  Try some for yourself.  Tweet me how you get on.  You can start right now.  If you’ve ever thought how someone you know would like to read these blogs or tweets, forward this to them right away.  Job done.  It might give someone a little lift.
 

June Feelgood Task

Monday, June 15th, 2009
 
 
For this month’s Feelgood Task, I’m promoting Deepak Chopra’s Law of Giving.  He says:
 
“The universe operates through dynamic exchange … giving and receiving are different aspects of the flow of energy in the universe.  And in our willingness to give that which we seek, we keep the abundance of the universe circulating in our lives”
 
He suggests that the best way to put the Law of Giving into practice is to give something to everyone you come into contact with.  It doesn’t have to be a physical gift.  It can be a smile, a friendly “hello”.  It could be a thoughtful compliment, a cheerful greeting.  Gifts of care and appreciation are often worth more than money can buy.
 
How cheered, valued or rewarded do you feel when someone takes the time to notice your hard work, or to compliment your outfit?  How pleasing is it to hear thanks and praise when you put a meal on the table for friends?  The thanks, the praise and the smiles are the gifts we can give that bestow blessings on the giver and the receiver.
 
Try it for the month.  I promise you will feel better for it.  And it won’t interfere with cash-flow!
 

March Feelgood Task

Tuesday, March 24th, 2009
March Feelgood Task

March Feelgood Task

Let’s send a wave of positive energy right around the world!  In the face of a lot of negativity, I’m relying on you readers to do your bit.  Stay positive.  Smile at your friends, neighbours and especially complete strangers.  I don’t mean an inane smile that will have them sending for the guys in white coats.  I just mean that there’s no tax on smiling - so let’s do LOTS of it!!

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”
Leo Buscaglia
 
 

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